Sorry, I Have A Boyfriend

How hard did that title hit you? Honestly, I felt pretty uncomfortable writing it.

Somehow, our culture has portrayed dating as something that is not ok to talk about. If I tell someone a story that involves my boyfriend, I feel bad about it because it's either having a conversation with another woman who doesn't have a boyfriend or it's a conversation with a guy and it seems like I'm meaning it to say, "Don't talk to me and don't try to flirt with me because I am taken." We have been trained to hush ourselves when we talk about what concert we went to with our boyfriend or how amazing he is. We've been told that "my boyfriend" is a phrase that should be used softly and not often.

I know it's over used, but you're either single and wishing you were in a relationship or in a relationship and being jealous of those who are single and not "tied down".

Who told us that we have to be dating someone to be truly happy? Who told us to be quiet about our relationship because we don't want to upset those who aren't in one?

Learn to own up to the season God has graced you with. If your single, when someone asks you your relationship status tell them you're not dating anyone and you're having the best time of your life. If your dating someone, when someone asks your relationship status, speak up and tell them you're dating someone who is amazing and how glad you are to be able to call them your girlfriend/boyfriend.

To those who are on the receiving side of someone telling you their relationship status. Don't get hurt when they tell you they're dating, because you asked them that question. Don't take it to heart when a man or woman tells you they were working on a project with their boyfriend or girlfriend, because if they said something like, "Joshua and I cleaned the whole yard" they will be confused like, "Who the heck is Joshua". Like I said earlier, own your season. God has you there for a reason so the sooner you're able to realize that, the sooner you can use that time to glorify Him.

I know it's difficult to listen to someone talk about this stuff when they are happily dating and you're still stuck in the single pringle zone. Remember though that everyone goes through every stage. Everyone is single, then they date, then get engaged, then they get married. God puts you in your position for a reason. Some people might not even get to the dating stage or married stage, but the sooner you fall in love with your life and your status, the sooner you can be happy and be the God-glorifying person you were made to be.

Be Still And Know

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My amazing boyfriend Joshua (one year of dating in the books!)